All coming together.

Well.. hmm... I guess I only have two words to say... (well, that might not be entirely true..) but let me get them out... okay? THANKS E-HARMONY.


Oh yes, I said it. Thank you to a website that has completely changed my life. How does a website change your life? You ask. Or maybe not..but I'm asking for you, ya know, putting words in your mouth... Well, because of this one website, which I signed up for on November 14 @ 2:00 am.. why do I remember that specific date? Because the guy on the other end of the phone said, "Your subscription ends on February 14." I laughed and said, "Haha. February 14. Valentine's Day..how ironic. I HOPE I have met someone by then." I guess he didn't think it was so funny because he didn't laugh..maybe it was because it was 2:00am and he didn't really care about some single girl going on about Valentine's Day. I thought it was funny. Oh well.


Anyway... long story longer... I met him on November 23rd. Ok, didn't really meet him..or talk to him.. but what e-harmony calls "matching"..meaning they send me his profile, send him my profile.. Let's just say I was immediately taken over by him. Haha.. well, if you consider a picture of him singing into a microphone dressed like Mario from Super Mario Bros and jamming on his Rock Band guitar..yeah, it made me laugh. I liked this boy immediately. So, I did like any good girl does when she listens to her mother.. she hopes and waits for the boy to contact her. And he did. :)


Boy and girl start communication process. Boy and girl start phone conversation. Boy and girl go on first date. Boy and girl see each other as often as possible. New Years boy and girl go out, decide they only want each other. Boy and girl fall in love. Boy and girl start spending every day AND every night together. Boy and girl decide to elope to Las Vegas and get hitched. Say, what? :) Oh yes, boy and girl are getting married.

Dating...and stuff

Hmm...I've only been dating for 2.5 years (since I was married for six and with him for nine) and is anyone else with me when I say it is one of the most awkward things ever?! Really. I don't get this whole dating thing. You go out with a guy, you continue to see him for a few weeks... are you able to go out on a date with another guy or do you feel this obligation to just see this one dude? But...what if he is going out with other girls too and while I'm sitting at home feeling "obligated" he's out dating? Then what do you call each other? "Oh hi, this is uh..N, the uh, guy I'm dating.. wait, he's my "friend".. but we've been seeing each other..but we haven't committed to anything..um. Yeah, so this is N." I don't get it. I try to get perspective on it from my guy friends and they all say conflicting things:

• "Don't go out with this other guy if you really like the guy you're dating now."
• "It is a NO-NO to date 2 guys at the same time."
• "Yes, you're a player if you're dating one guy and you go out on a date with another."

And then the kicker..

• "Who are these guy friends who are telling you this stuff? They're crazy..you can go out with this other guy if you want..it's only been a few weeks."

Geez, who the heck am I supposed to believe? Who makes up dating criteria? Is there a book that tells me what to do? A manual perhaps? Can I send in like 5 cereal box tops to get one? Let me tell you, I'm one smart cookie but being out and dating makes me feel so uncomfortable and ignorant...and I REALLY don't like feeling ignorant at all.

And then when I find out some of these guys haven't had a relationship in 5 years, I'm kind of puzzled. Hmm...so what is this then?! Do you finally want a relationship? Is this how it goes in your world? Date for a few weeks/months, then move on? What are you looking for? What are we doing?!

Yeah, dating completely has me puzzled.